So through some of these problems, my girl brought up the subject, "am I supposed to change myself for a relationship?" which is something we all hear all of the time and it got me thinking....
We are a species of change, everything we do requires change. Have we ever heard of a successful business doing the same thing for years and still be successful?? No, because competition comes in, demographics change, there are literally all kinds of areas that have to be reshaped and thought through in order to make it work.
I thought to myself, "this is the same in a relationship." How will a person grow if they never change. If a child were to act as a child their whole life, then it would be very difficult to be normal and a lot of problems would come from it. It does not matter the kind of relationship, everyone has to change in order to see progress. A child grows into a teenager, parents treat them different, a guy does something to make his girl upset, he will have to change or fix that if he wants to stay with her.
In my opinion, the only difference between change in your personal life and change in your relationships is LOVE. If those parents did not love their child, they would not be willing to change to make their child's life a little better. If that guy did not love his girl, he would not bother changing and their relationship would come to a swift end.
I would like to relate this all back to Christ. Jesus Christ is our first LOVE and our most valuable relationship. We as Christians have a certain calling on our lives. We have certain things that we must do to become closer to God and to live separate and holy lives in this world. These are things that we must change about ourselves to get closer to Him. We change the way we use time by giving Him more prayers and reading our bibles more. We change our eating habits to make room for fasting. Change is just another form of sacrifice and sacrifice yields the greatest fruits. We have to change to become better people in God's eyes and He helps us change because he LOVES us.
I said all of this to say that God is the perfect example of perfect love and the perfect relationship. We should conduct our relationships according to our relationship with Him. The reason why God doesn't "break-up" with us is because he LOVES us and he knows we can change to do better. That is why friends should mend their problems. This is how couples should fix their problems, anyone can just quit and get out of it but how does that help your relationships?? I know people that have been married multiple times because they can't make their relationships work.
Start with LOVE and work your way from the inside out. If you truly love someone then you will be willing to change in order to make a realtionship work. In doing so, we are become a better people.
